Thursday, March 19, 2020

2 O’clock News - Spring Equinox 2020


When I was growing up, friends and I occasionally played D&D in a sporadic free-fire zone. Not out of any sense of desire or excitement. Rather because that’s where our best, most imaginative DM happened to live.

My friend lived in public housing. I’m sure a few of you are now nodding your heads as if that explains everything and is all you needed to hear. This was in Cocoa, Florida, not Cabrini-Green outside Chicago. But that didn’t mean there weren’t issues most of the players in our gaming group had never dealt with before, or likely since.

First and foremost was the 2 o’clock news.

Being in high school, we tended to keep late hours. Many of us worked part-time in restaurants, so our weekend free-time rarely overlapped. When it did, we would sometimes game late on a Friday night. Often, we would game at my friend’s place because his was the most warm and inviting, and tolerant of our odd, extended hours.

His family’s unit was on the end of the row which meant it faced two streets, with a common green space behind it between their row of apartments and the next row over. All the streets in this section of the neighborhood were named with either a number or a letter, which even then struck me as either unimaginative or contemptuous. When I’d first met my friend, he’d lived in a slightly larger unit in a slightly better section where the street was named after a flower. His family had been forced to move when his sister had moved out. The family was apprehensive about the new area as it had a worse reputation than where they had been. To my middle-class ears, that trepidation spoke volumes.

Still, theirs was a place I could drop by unannounced at midnight, as long as I followed two simple rules. First, rap softly on the back door to see if my friend or his brother was still up. Second, step back and to the right, into the light his mother’s bedroom window looked out onto and wait until I saw the curtain move. That meant she’d identified who I was. I’d been told in no uncertain terms there was a loaded .45 on the other side of that curtain so not to mess around. His mother had a well-earned reputation in the neighborhood that meant she could guarantee that no one would mess with the random white boys who darkened her door at all hours. Her precautions stemmed from how she’d earned that reputation. But that’s a story I may have already told.

One particular Friday night, the stars had aligned. All of our merry band of adventurers had piled into my friend’s tiny living room. It was just large enough for a couch and a coffee table with a couple chairs dragged in from the kitchen. Most of us were content to sit on the floor. Behind the couch was a head-height window that looked out onto the street facing the front door.

This Friday night was unusual. For whatever reason, we’d gotten started early, something like seven or eight o’clock. Which meant my high school girlfriend was with us. She had just recently joined our group and was only an intermittent attendee. While the rest of us had been hanging out here for years, public housing was a completely new experience for her.

Once we started playing, our exact location didn’t matter. It wasn’t quite the large dining room table most of us had started around but we held our character sheets in our laps or rested them on notebooks. We rolled dice on the coffee table or the floor. Little did some of us know that this was good practice for when we moved into college dorms a year later. By those standards, this location was palatial.

I don’t remember the adventure we were on, or even who was running it. I’m pretty sure it wasn’t me. All I remember is that we’d all gotten into character and were enjoying each other’s company. We knew we didn’t have much time as my girlfriend had to be home by midnight. Our surroundings faded pretty quickly as the fantasy world sprang up in our minds.

Sometime around 11:30, in the middle of what we knew was likely our last encounter of the evening, we heard first one sharp bang outside followed by a couple more. Pop. Pop-pop.

I was sitting on one end of the couch, another friend on the other, my girlfriend between us. Without even looking up from our character sheets, both he and I slid to the floor to get our heads below window level like synchronized swimmers diving underwater. Nothing new, nothing that needed comment. Almost no one else reacted except for a quick instinctive glance to check that we all had cinder block between us and the street. We knew the routine.

My girlfriend didn’t. She immediately turned and popped her face into the window, peering in the darkness outside intently, scanning the street for what had just happened.

“Were those gunshots?” she asked.

My friend at the other end of the couch and I again reacted simultaneously. We turned in tandem and each grabbed a different shoulder, physically hauling her below the window.

“Yes, those were gunshots,” we confirmed in stereo. That it wasn’t really a good time for prairie-dogging went unsaid.

The friend whose living room we were in casually added, “I guess the two o’clock news started early.”

The rest of us just nodded sagely and turned back to our characters. We knew we’d just been granted a little bonus time. Then we noticed that my girlfriend’s face had gone somewhat ashen.

“Uh,” she said uncertainly, beginning to pack up her character sheet and dice, “I think I’d better go.”

We all just smiled and shook our heads, not realizing that she hadn’t been through this drill before. Like walking into Mordor: one doesn’t simply wander outside in the middle of the 2 o’clock news.

Like many people, we all worked the kind of jobs that got paid on Fridays. As did the people in my friend’s neighborhood, many from regular, low-wage jobs, some from public assistance. Like any working-class neighborhood entering a weekend, that meant people had a little jingle in their pocket to unwind from the stresses of the week with a little alcohol or other mind-altering vice of their choice.

But unlike our middle-class neighborhoods where most people preferred to get their party on behind closed doors, this neighborhood was more social. People liked to hang out on stoops and in driveways, catching up on the week’s events. Picture a southern version of Irish Boston, or Italian New York, or any other somewhat closed community of your choice.

And like people everywhere, once tongues were well lubricated, people began to gossip. As their filters wore off and their self-censoring inhibitions disappeared, rumor and inuendo began to fly. Like the worst kind of high school whispers behind the bleachers or in the bathrooms most of us are familiar with.

My friend said you could learn everything you needed to know about what had gone on in the neighborhood during the week just by listening on any given Friday. Who was into what, who was fighting with who, who had cheated which deal, whose kids had broken into what car, who had good drugs or bad, who had a new job, who was back on public aid, who was in or out of jail, and who was sleeping with who. Kind of like a PSA meets CNN Headline without any of that pesky double source confirmation. Think Fox News.

Sometime after midnight, the long knives came out from old grudges or new grievances that had been stropped to razor sharp. Inevitably, tempers flared when someone crossed a line until someone else decided it was time to issue a few retaliatory warning shots, which often brought the street party to an end. Often, but not always. That crescendo usually came around 2 a.m. just when the juiciest bits of gossip were being served.

The 2 o’clock news.

“You’re stuck here for the duration,” I informed my girlfriend. “We may as well keep playing. It could be a while before things clear up outside.”

“What do you mean?” she replied with a mixture of suspicion and incredulity. “Won’t someone just call the cops?”

We all looked at each other uncertainly. How to explain that we weren’t in Kansas anymore. Or in her parents’ Indiana where they literally shot prairie dogs from the front porch for entertainment.

My friend stepped in to salvage us. Someone may or may not call the cops. Likely not for a variety of reasons if no one had gotten hit. Even if someone called, CPD wouldn’t arrive for at least half an hour, after they rounded up a couple two-man cruisers from more important duties. They didn’t waste much patrol time in his neighborhood. If they didn’t just do a drive-by, they would likely hassle everyone indiscriminately. No one would talk to them, at least that night. If they did, it might end up as a community bulletin next week. But in general, very few people trusted CPD, who at the time had a well-earned reputation for being racist, indifferent and heavy-handed. Kind of a rock and a hard place situation.

Once my girlfriend figured out that we weren’t trying to scam her into breaking curfew, she settled down. We convinced her to call her parents and tell them she’d be an hour late. That we were in the middle of something. Generally, our parents only wanted to know where we were, when we’d be back and that we were safe. In our minds, she was definitely that. As long as she waited for the street to clear. Which it would in about an hour, one way or another.

When it did, we would all escort her to her car, and convoy her out of the neighborhood if she wanted. Hell, I could drive her father’s truck and have someone ferry me back. That was extreme. In an hour people would have calmed down and gone to bed. The excitement was over. Again, this was Cocoa not South Central. We were just waiting for the all clear, which was a little more art than science.

She eventually called her parents and we kept playing. But by then, the game spell had been broken. When we disbanded for the night, we admonished her not to tell her parents exactly what had happened fearing she wouldn’t be allowed into my friend’s home again in daylight or in darkness. She didn’t listen, with predictable results.

But that’s not the point of this story.

At a party a couple months ago, a friend and I got talking about gun control.

When I told this friend that I had been in neighborhoods where guns were necessary to protect yourself because you couldn’t rely on the police, his immediate answer was, “Sure, but don’t export it.”

I found that statement troubling but didn’t pursue it. It was a holiday party after all.

But that answer niggled at me. The longer I thought about it, the more I found it to be the worst kind of pearl-clutching privilege (and in general I despise that word). To me, it implied that we just need to keep that over there, wherever there is. Those poor neighborhoods. Not in my suburbia. Or god forbid my exurbia.

Ok, that’s probably more than a bit unfair.

This was not what you would call a safe neighborhood. My friend didn’t. It was a poor neighborhood. It grew out of a legally mandated, segregated neighborhood. This was a neighborhood where the annual MLK parade drew angry KKK protestors on the way in and the way out. A neighborhood where many of its students were bussed to distant elementary and middle schools but couldn’t get proper funding or maintenance for their own schools within walking distance. A neighborhood where the cops were more likely to hassle you for the state of your car as you drove to work than to protect and serve. A neighborhood where if you called said cops, they might or might not show up in a timely manner for what most neighborhoods would consider pretty serious crimes. Or if they did alone, on a very bad day, they might find themselves trussed up in a closet by a local drug dealer who would then issue very serious threats against whoever called. A neighborhood where you could be working your second job restocking a walk-in freezer in a convenience store and emerge to find your cashier freaking out because she couldn’t remember how to open the register while someone was screaming at her and pointing a gun at her face.

Do I want to export all that to my neighborhood or any other?

Obviously not. In fact, I don’t want it to exist at all. But I know it did and still does. And likely will in places for the foreseeable future.

It’s not about exporting it, it’s about correcting it, one piece at a time as we are able. But as we do so, those of us inclined to do so, we need to remember there are unique circumstances which we may not share, understand, or really be able to relate to. And yet they are real and must be taken into account.

It only took our circle of friends a couple years to become inured to the situation. The 2 o’clock news had become normal to us, not even particularly threatening. Just something that made you slide to the floor without comment and keep going with whatever you were doing. But we were young and we were tourists, only visiting on evenings and weekends. We may have internalized it but we didn’t live it, not 24-7-365.

So, what do you do with that?

Here’s the thing. I witnessed my friend’s family struggle. I caught all the veiled prejudice and not so silent judgement directed their way growing up, some unenlightened, some very purposeful, all of it unrelenting. I also heard the tales of the levels of bureaucracy they were up against on any given day. That’s not an excuse. It’s a reality. One that you and yours have hopefully never seen.

What we call Welfare isn’t a monolithic, overarching program. There are dozens of federal, state, and local agencies, each with their own bureaucracy and regulations. To give you an idea, there was federal housing administered by a local authority (not free, supplemented down to your income level), programs for winter heat (but not summer AC), various nutrition programs (including SNAP, WIC, free and reduced lunches), pre-k and kindergarten programs, public assistance (what we call Welfare with various limits and restrictions), mandated busing (for his neighborhood, not mine) plus all manner of other social services (some of which you do not want to run afoul of if they show up at your door).

Those are just the ones I can think of off the top of my head. Each program was intended to address a specific problem. But no one had an advocate to ensure they were being treated fairly, or even received any benefit they might qualify for. Everything was DIY and OJT. Most of it is Byzantine by design to discourage people from accessing the aid they need.

I’ve just barely scratched the layers of intertwined complexity. There is no way to fix it all at once, not by passing a single piece of legislation or addressing a single aspect of the problem. We’ve been trying for fifty years with only moderate success. In the context of gun control, there is no one-size-fits-all answer for my friend’s mother that would have made her safe.

Did owning the gun make my friend’s mother safer? You can bet your life it did. When that curtain moved at midnight, I knew she was dead serious because of the stories she or her sons had shared with me. She and her family had been threatened by some very sketchy people in her life. People she rightfully feared, with no one to protect her. But I also knew I was safer in her house than I sometimes was at home.

In short, my friend’s situation was bigger than the 2 o’clock news. Addressing that alone works at the symptoms, not the underlying condition.

So, as we try to untangle this situation, and many other hot-button issues in this country, we need to be mindful that our solutions do not to make the problem worse for people just trying to get by. Because some of them are unlikely mentors. Like my friend’s mother and brother have been for me. Without a doubt, I would not be the same person without them.

And that, my friends, concludes this very middle class, suburban, equinox edition of your 2 o’clock news. I am Noddfa Imaginings, and you have found sanctuary.


© 2020 Edward P. Morgan III

2 comments:

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    Some of you might remember me talking about my friend and his family before. His mother helped shape me in ways my own never did. I’ll talk about her more in another essay later this year.

    If you think this situation is unique to public housing, you’ve probably have never lived in a true working-class neighborhood. People are people, wherever they reside.

    Not to paint too grim a picture, because my friend’s neighborhood was also a neighborhood of community, a neighborhood of resilience sometimes bordering on defiance, a neighborhood with private homeowners, a neighborhood with churches with full pews every Sunday, a neighborhood where people often shared what they had and helped each other navigate the system as best they could. So good and bad, like most neighborhoods. If you look closely at your own, you will find alcoholics, drug addicts (and dealers), domestic abusers, child abusers, and sex offenders at the very least, convicted or hidden. The biggest difference is you probably know the cops will show up when you call them without looking to crack your head.

    I’ve said before that you could see the disparity in our two neighborhoods by how long each of us could walk around in the other’s. He and I couldn’t walk in my neighborhood for 15 minutes before RPD rolled up beside us with questions. I could walk in his for a couple hours at 2 a.m. without anyone hassling me. That’s part of the tangle of this story.

    And bear in mind, my friend’s father was a Vietnam veteran, a marksman if memory serves. Even though his parents were divorced, that a veteran’s children had to live like that should give all of us pause.

    Some of our admonishment against my girlfriend telling her parents wasn’t just youthful indiscretion. Even though it was the early 80s, we knew there might be layers to their reaction. Though, naively, we didn’t know how bad. In fact, my girlfriend’s father’s reaction to my friend grew much worse after she and I broke up a year later. And I mean like show up at the back door because what might people think if you come to our front door to see our daughter worse.

    My friend never found his mother’s gun, at least while growing up. He knew it was in her bedroom and two moves away from where she read and slept but that was all. I’ve never seen any of his family draw a gun in anger. In fact, I’ve never seen them draw a gun at all. At the same time, I have known a woman who prevented her own rape by sticking a pistol in her assailant’s face. She was fully prepared to pull the trigger on someone she knew although she didn’t want to.

    I don’t self-identify as a capital-L Liberal and likely never will because I’ve found they don’t always understand the problems they are trying to correct, despite their good intentions. Their assumptions when implemented often do more harm than good. You have to deal with facts on the ground, not the way you want them to be. My friend’s mother taught me that.

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  2. Picture Notes:

    For this illustration I used a picture of our travel clock, a clock that now sits in our bathroom after being retired from travel duties years ago. I took the picture at the angle I wanted the display to be, then used the picture as a way to get the perspective right. There are a few Easter eggs in the picture, like the breaking news time being 2:00 am and the name on the clock being MQ-0200 (Morgan Quartz 02:00). NBS? Neighborhood Broadcast System.

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